Learning how to be a good friend

Human relationships are complex. But there are some simple principles you can follow to build solid friendships

Learning how to be a good friendEverybody wants to have friends. Growing up, I often heard, “If you want to have friends, you have to be a friend.” To me, that statement always left more questions than answers. I was recently reading The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey with my students and I came upon the best…

Resolving your inner conflict and getting off the couch

All lasting change has to happen in the subconscious mind if you're going to get meaningful results

Resolving your inner conflict and getting off the couchChoosing new paths in life, and finding the confidence to stay on those paths, is all a matter of programming. We all promise ourselves we'll take action in areas of life, yet fail to find the inner resolve to follow through. The inner conflict can carry on for years, undermining our resourcefulness and confidence in getting new behaviours…

Self-discovery, one shovelful of snow at a time

Snow throws a lot at us. Our response to it can be seen in how we navigate the challenges of building a business, writing a book or tackling a project

Self-discovery, one shovelful of snow at a timeThe sun is shining, even if the air is still frigid, so I’ll take it. After several days of digging out my huge driveway – 100 metres, to be exact – and coping with drifting snow, even my most optimistic “Shovelling is a great full-body workout strategy” is feeling less than enthusiastic. I love the…

Why you need to be aggressively positive in business

Move forward with intent and work in a manner that enables you to succeed through your direct actions and those of your team

Why you need to be aggressively positive in businessI was 21 the summer of the accident. I was working on a farm and my boss and his family had gone to the lake. I was left with a list of chores that included clearing out a culvert on a dam that was being plugged by beavers. I thought this would be the perfect…

Turning challenges into opportunities for success

But to successfully face those challenges, you need to know yourself and the opposition you face, and be prepared to grow and adapt

Turning challenges into opportunities for successIn the classic book The Art of War, Sun Tzu teaches about far more than war. He also teaches some of the key elements of a joyful and meaningful life. “If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the…

How to behave like a millennial, and like it

At mid-life, as we long to reshape our lives and careers, and do something more meaningful, we could learn a thing or two from millennials

How to behave like a millennial, and like itSeveral years ago, I had the sudden, blessed opportunity to step off my hamster wheel – the success-oriented, fast-paced career where I put my work first and tried to shoehorn in everything else. Balance was a see-saw – when one side went up, the other went down. It was a life of sacrifice and compromise,…

How to behave like a millennial, and like it

At mid-life, as we long to reshape our lives and careers, and do something more meaningful, we could learn a thing or two from millennials

How to behave like a millennial, and like itSeveral years ago, I had the sudden, blessed opportunity to step off my hamster wheel – the success-oriented, fast-paced career where I put my work first and tried to shoehorn in everything else. Balance was a see-saw – when one side went up, the other went down. It was a life of sacrifice and compromise,…

The art of setting goals for a new year

We’re successful when we’re working toward a goal, not only when the goal is achieved. The key is to write goals down and revisit them regularly

The art of setting goals for a new yearEarl Nightingale tells us that “Success is the progressive realization of a worthy goal.” This means we’re successful when we’re working toward a goal, not only when the goal is achieved. High school students normally have the goal of graduating. I love telling my students that by showing up each day and doing each assignment,…

How to make a New Year’s resolution that sticks

By turning resolutions into goals, writing those goals down, revisiting them daily and imagining yourself accomplishing them

How to make a New Year’s resolution that sticksBroadcaster and motivational expert Earl Nightingale tells us, “Success is the progressive realization of a worthy goal.” Many of us come up with New Year’s resolutions every year. Unfortunately, we often end up frustrated and overly self-critical when things don't go as well as we hoped, and we don't reach our goals. How can we improve this…

Sorry is more than just a word: show that you mean it

Contrition that’s merely on the lips changes nothing in the heart or, for that matter, around the waistline, within the workplace, inside troubled relationships

Sorry is more than just a word: show that you mean itIt’s traditional to head into a new year full of resolve fuelled by last year’s regret. Our commitment to renewed discipline, diets and dream-achieving over the coming 12 months is all too often driven by short-term overindulgence during Christmas festivities. More importantly, there’s a lingering sense of another year lost by not doing what we…

Why New Year’s resolutions never stick

Change isn't difficult. What is difficult is doing things when you don't really want to

Why New Year’s resolutions never stickSo it's a new year. The pressure to look optimistically and confidently ahead, to resolve to change old ways and embrace the new, is palpable. The media, with tiresome predictability, are chock-full of advice from the experts on how to make and stick to your resolutions. Forget it. Most people really don't want to change,…

Resolved: I will make this year’s resolutions work

As a new year dawns, it's important to know that the resolution game is a losing one unless you're willing to be positive and focused

Resolved: I will make this year’s resolutions workMost of us have a new year resolution in mind, even if we won't say it out loud. The trick is to make it stick. We want to accomplish something or make some improvement. Perhaps we want to lose weight, change jobs, stop consuming alcohol – or even find a life mate. Sadly, most of us probably already…

Can your ego manage repeated attacks?

When your ego is taking a bashing, staying objective and true to who you are can be difficult

Can your ego manage repeated attacks?When your ego is taking a bashing, staying objective and true to who you are can be difficult. But as Dr. Seuss said, “Be who you are and say what you want, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” A good friend of mine has been struggling with leading a…

Time to stop feeling sorry for yourself

Victim stories negatively affect us and our attitude towards others and life, yet we all carry them around

Time to stop feeling sorry for yourselfAs much as we hate to admit it, we've probably all told victim stories. We've certainly had them told to us. It's time to banish them. The victim story is the one you auto-share that alerts everyone (including yourself) that you've been wronged by someone or some unfair situation. The telling (and retelling) confirms the need to feel…

The pursuit of happiness

The truth is, you can't find happiness – it finds you, based on your pursuit of things that bring fulfilment and peace

The pursuit of happinessA student recently passed by my classroom and asked, “Mr. Chidiac, why are you always so happy?” I replied, “I love what I do. I love being a teacher.” She seemed satisfied and went on her way. I thought further about what she asked and my response. I really am extremely happy and I suppose…
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